I admit it. I haven’t done very well at self-care this past week. It’s not that I’m struggling with my mental health, really. More, it’s down to the fact that my motivation levels have been low the last week or two now. For example, I have trash that’s piled up a bit, and a litter box that’s probably a few days overdue to be changed, and I have a pile of cardboard that really needs to be dragged out to my firepit out back and burned.
But I just don’t have the motivation to do any of these things right now. It’s like my executive function has cut out so that I’m only able to do the bare necessities — get out of bed, get dressed, eat, go to work, etc. Anything else that crops up that needs to be done in the meantime has just gone to the wayside until I can kick my brain and body into gear. Does anybody else get like this?
And I’ll get my butt into gear eventually. I just have to ride this low period out. And like I said, it’s not entirely like I’m struggling right now. I’m doing some of the things I need to do to get through my day and week. I’m not depressed. My anxiety is only a little bit of a buzz in the back of my brain. I’m just trying to figure out where to find my motivation to do more than the basic necessities. I’ll accept advice, tips, and tricks from anyone willing to dish out. How do people motivate themselves when self-motivation is non-existent?
I’ll get things done, though. I always do. I’ve just learned to be gentle with myself when I’m struggling with something. It’ll probably be a little bit of an internal fight once I do get after these other tasks, but it’s one I can win. I just have to take things a moment at a time, and not let them overwhelm me.
Externalize the motivation. I have heard there are apps that set challenges making household tasks like a game. Or, invite someone over, which will force some of the cleaning tasks. Call someone and verbally tell them you are going to do a task (verbal commitment) and then ask themnl to call you back in x amount of time so that you can tell them it is done.
For more ideas, check any ADHD website or channel. We have permanent motivation control issues due to our dopamine diasorder.
Those are great ideas! Thanks for the suggestions.
My therapist thinks I may have ADD (which, I learned today, is the same thing as ADHD), based on this and other observations she’s made during our sessions. I’m going to look into possibly getting evaluated, if anyone does that for adults.